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How I Found a Routine That Works for My Body and How It Has Changed My Life

One of the most important things I have learned on my health journey is that every body is different. What works for someone else might not work for you, and that is okay. I had to experiment with different eating habits, workouts, and routines before I found what truly works for my body.

For me, red meat feels really heavy and seems to stick with me longer than I like, so I limit it. My go-to proteins are chicken, shrimp, and fish.

When it comes to carbs, bread, pasta, and rice tend to linger in my body. So for most of my meals, I skip rice, fries, pasta, and bread. If I do have them, it is no more than one or two times a week and usually only for one meal that day. Instead, I substitute with zucchini, broccoli, greens, cabbage, and lettuce wraps instead of bread.

Some days I only eat one main meal and two snacks, focusing heavily on protein like shakes, protein Greek yogurt, and probiotics. I try my hardest not to eat past 7 or 8 p.m.

For drinks, I mostly stick to water because I prefer to eat my calories rather than drink them. Occasionally, I enjoy a low-calorie tea or a lemonade treat, but water is my main choice.

I attend 5 a.m. bootcamp three times a week and go to the gym at night with my family three to four times per week. I try to walk or move my body after every meal to help with digestion and I find ways to incorporate movement with my kids so we are all active together.

On average, I eat between 1,500 and 1,800 calories per day and I practice intermittent fasting, especially if I have treated myself to a more relaxed meal or a special drink. I also avoid alcohol as much as possible.

While this routine is geared toward my health and weight loss, the discipline I have built in this process has translated into every other area of my life. Just because my goal started with my health does not mean the same focus and commitment do not apply when I am building my business, improving my relationships, or achieving other personal goals. The same skills — consistency, planning, patience, and self-control — are exactly what help me grow in other areas.

When you are hyper-focused on one area, the skill sets you gain can help you improve other areas too. That is why I encourage people to take our Life Assessment, which looks at the seven life domains that make up your overall well-being.

The Seven Life Domains We Focus On

Spiritual – Understanding your beliefs, values, and ethics that guide your life. Whatever your approach, spending time asking and exploring your spiritual life can be an important part of your overall well-being.

Emotional – Maintaining a healthy emotional life is essential to your overall health. This can mean managing stress, getting quality sleep, staying on top of responsibilities, and asking for help from a therapist or life coach when needed.

Intellectual – Staying curious and engaged in learning keeps your mind sharp. This includes creative activities, reading for pleasure, being aware of social and political issues, or joining groups that focus on intellectual growth.

Physical – Moving your body, eating balanced meals, sleeping well, managing stress, keeping up with preventative medical and dental care, and maintaining healthy sexual health habits.

Social – Building strong social connections is vital. This could mean having a network of people who can support you during stressful times, as well as cultivating healthy romantic and personal relationships.

Environmental – Taking care of your surroundings and the global environment improves your quality of life. This could involve de-cluttering, recycling, cleaning your spaces, or volunteering to keep your environment healthy and organized.

Financial – Living within your means, planning for the future, and managing your money wisely. This includes budgeting, saving, and being a smart consumer.

When you see all seven areas together, you realize that a truly balanced life means giving attention to each domain. The Life Assessment will help you identify which areas need more attention so we can create a Life Plan that strengthens your weaker areas while maintaining your stronger ones.

Taking the time to understand and improve these seven domains is how you create a balanced, fulfilling, and purposeful life.

Now is the time to take the next step toward your best life.

Book a session with me today so we can complete your Life Assessment, identify the areas that need more focus, and create a personalized Life Plan for success and fulfillment.

This is your opportunity to take back ownership of your life, set realistic goals, and start making consistent progress toward the balanced, purposeful, and thriving life you deserve.

The best project I’ll ever work on .. is ME!

I am in awe of my body. Every day of this weight loss and healthy living journey, I am witnessing what I once thought was impossible. It’s not just about the pounds I’ve lost or the clothes that now fit… it’s about the strength, discipline, and resilience that I’ve discovered within myself.

Not long ago, I was approaching 300 pounds. I was weighed down physically, but also emotionally and mentally, by habits and mindsets that didn’t serve me. Walking up a flight of stairs left my knees trembling. I wore 3X clothing and avoided mirrors because I didn’t recognize the woman staring back at me. My life revolved around everyone else’s needs, and I was at the bottom of my own priority list.

I went from a 3x to XL in clothing !!!!

But today, everything is different. I am proudly wearing XL clothing. I recently hit a major milestone in the gym, leg pressing 720 pounds…. an accomplishment that still amazes me. For the woman who once struggled to walk up the stairs, this is not just a physical victory, it’s a spiritual and emotional one.

This journey has not been perfect or easy. I’ve become very aware of the parts of me that are still healing. I’ve noticed how obsessive I can be with the scale, with tracking every habit, and with how hypersensitive I’ve become around food choices. In the past, I would have judged myself for these new “quirks,” but today, I welcome them. I welcome every new insecurity, every new obsession, and every raw emotion that surfaces because they are all part of the journey toward optimum health. They remind me that I am finally paying attention to me.

Progress pics!

The proof of my growth is in more than just my reflection. My triglycerides have dropped from 135 mg to 75 mg, and my A1C is now under 5. I am no longer at risk for conditions that once scared me into silence. I feel freedom in my body, in my mind, and in my spirit. I am so proud of myself and the woman I am becoming.

And this is just the beginning. I am excited and curious to see what else I can achieve. How much stronger can I get? How much healthier can I become? How much more joy can I create in this body that once felt like a burden but now feels like a gift?

To every woman reading this, I want to encourage you to choose you. Make the decision to put yourself first, even when life pulls you in a hundred directions. The version of you that is waiting on the other side of discipline, self-love, and consistency will change your entire life.

If this speaks to you, I invite you to join me in the Divine Aligned Collective, our private women’s life coaching group where we hold each other accountable, embrace self-discovery, and create more fulfilled, powerful lives together.

Click the link below to join the community and start aligning your health, mindset, and purpose today.

Or, if you are ready for personalized guidance, click to book a one-on-one life coaching session and start planning your personal growth journey with intentionality and clarity.

This is your reminder that you are worth the work, and your next level is waiting for you to say yes.

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From a 3xl to now I’m a XL in clothing size !

Rest in Peace (While You’re Still Alive)

I used to think rest was earned! Something you got after the to-do list was cleared, the house was quiet, and the work was done.

But anxiety taught me otherwise.

There was a season in my life when I wore every role like armor:

Homeschooling mom. Business owner. Wife. Friend. Sister. Project manager.

I was doing all the things and trying to hold it together with a prayer and a planner.

But the weight caught up to me.

Anxiety wasn’t just a feeling. It became physical. My body carried what my mind refused to release. I had headaches, body pain, tension in places I didn’t even know could hold stress. I was overwhelmed, burnt out, and spiritually drained.

I had to give up.

Not in a depressive, “I quit life” kind of way, but in a freeing, “God, I surrender what I cannot control” way.

I had to let go of the illusion that anxiety was helping me hold it all together. It wasn’t. It was robbing me of my peace.

And guess what?

Worry never solved the problem.

Anxiety never brought clarity.

Fear never added value.

So I started asking different questions:

What would it feel like to rest in peace now, and not just after the storm? What if calm could exist within the chaos? What would it mean to prioritize my peace over my productivity?

Friend, maybe you need to give up too.

Give up the belief that it’s all on you.

Give up the need to control every outcome.

Give up the lie that anxiety keeps you prepared.

You don’t need to earn peace. You just have to allow it.

God is not glorified in your exhaustion. He is glorified in your trust.

Let This Be Your Invitation

If you’re tired of living from crisis to crisis and ready to live on purpose, I want to personally invite you to join my women’s coaching group: the Divine Aligned Collective.

Together, we walk through 7 key life domains. From spiritual wellness to relationships, purpose, finances, self-care, and more. We’re not just surviving—we’re creating lives we love, with peace and alignment at the center.

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Your life doesn’t have to be perfect to be peaceful.

You can rest now. While you’re still alive.

Change your perspective on things!

It is so important that you understand the concept of changing your perspective!

The way in which you view your life or current circumstance, will dictate the way in which you respond. And most importantly, the way in which you respond to your current circumstance will dictate your success or failure to overcome your current situation!

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2019 is your Year!

I don’t know about you, but I feel in the spirit that 2019 is going to be an amazing year. Not to discredit any year that God allows you to see as being short of amazing on it’s own, but there’s something special for 2019.

As we bask in the expectation of greatness for this year, let us get into position to receive the blessings that God has in store for us this year!

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